Forget the Money, Be Genuine

Get Paid to Help Others Online When You Give Freely of Your Content

Get Paid to Help Others When You Care

3 weeks ago a valuable lesson was learned when a podcast showed up in the YouTube library. @garyvaynerchuck spoke some real truth to me as an online influencer.

For 3 years now I have been learning to make money online, truth be told, I have been a "transactionist," designing my content with one specific CTA in mind, to make a sale.

Sure, I've made money with this approach, the point is, that style of business manages to piss off a lot of would-be followers to my brand.

In the last 3 days, I have seen the most positive growth in online followers and people enjoying my brand, through one simple change of mindset I have generated engagement and people who are excited to hear what I have to say, rather than being pissed off, running toward the nearest big name for support.

Not making sales when you are a transactionist, (a person releasing content to close sales one by one) leads to massive depression when you open your stats for the day and see $0.00's across the board, after the 9 hour day you put in the day before, expecting sales.

The only way to get over this long term rise and fall of depression is to build yourself, your company into a brand that focuses on the one key ingredient to higher sales growth online, "what can you DO FOR the user that is trusting in your brand?" 

Continued from LinkedIn

This new way of thinking has brought 15 strong followers to my brand in 3 days, from Linkedin, Facebook and Twitter. My days are spent building these followers up by fixing their problems. Yesterday, I was able to help @girlskickinbass on Twitter by creating a header for them, totally free, doing so without expecting money in return brought feelings of gratitude. Custom Twitter Headers Free from Unscripted Income

If doing this work for free sounds crazy, the marketing strategy works and that's why I lost so many would be followers when I didn't apply it. This approach isn't for those who want to make a million bucks right now, the idea behind my new truth in understanding how to be the best online influencer I can be is, brand building. Simple as that.

This a long term approach at building Parker Townsend into a brand, so when these online business opportunities tank, you know and I know that my brand is secure because I am not transaction based, and people will need help online for 127 years into the future.

What happened when my brand didn't focus on money?

  • Got Outstanding Reviews on Amazon
  • Had people share my content without having to ask
  • 205% Comment increase on Unscripted Income
  • Users excited for future articles

These are minuscule compared to the milestones that you can accomplish if you switch your business strategy to help others instead of helping your pocket book. Don't leave out your affiliate products, people want to know what's available to improve their lives and when you provide that information you should be entitled to income.

The Strategy used not only brings income over time but unloads massive gratitude and happiness to yourself and other users online. Now that friends have reviewed my books and shared my content, more money will come in through sales of the book on social proof, alone.

“Money shouldn't be the reason you help others, it should be a reward for your time and effort.”

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Howdy, I'm Parker

I am a man who doesn’t give up. I write unscripted material for guiding you and myself through a journey to reach the World Class.
Often using my skills as a storyteller in a way that is helpful to you in your life's journey.

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    I am, Who am I Really

    Who am I Really? I'm going to be real

    I am a man who doesn't give up. I write unscripted material for guiding you and myself to make money online. Yes, I often use my skills as a storyteller in a way that might be construed as marketing (it is) but it's marketing at providing solutions for your needs. Have you been keeping up with me on Twitter or Facebook? If you stop by each of my platforms in the next few days you will see that each platform is uploaded with vastly unique descriptions and images. I've been lying to myself as many online entrepreneurs do, having had the notion that social media as a whole, should be plenty to cover my brand, it's not. Each of these "social media" platforms is its own unique entity, it's a hangout for billions of people like us to learn, build, hack or make money. It's not enough to group these together into one medium anymore, each has a different reason as to why the hell people go there to hang out and should be treated as such.

    Here's what I mean. Each "social media" platform has unique needs and wants that are separate from other platforms. To say that my friends from Facebook come for the same reason as those on Twitter isn't only a lie but it's been fooling myself and others for years. It's not enough to group these into one medium anymore. 

    If you have the same 1,000 people on Facebook and the same 1,000 people on Twitter and you upload the same content at the same time, will your results be the same? No, results will be vastly different, why? Because one platform seeks a unique engagement from business-minded buyers and the other is for sharing every possible second with your friends and family. If I want to stay in the game, It is my job to find out why people are logging onto each platform and for what reason?

    If you're in the real world and you meet a new friend who wants to connect online 89% of you would guide them to your Facebook profile, that's because Facebook is a hangout spot for you to share your daily life with your buddies. It is important for me as an entrepreneur to understand which social platforms to use for generating relevant content.

    When my journey to making money online started, I didn't know what the shit was going on, do I now? That remains unknown as you read this. We're taught that everyone needs social media to grow in the internet world, so we begin to build these vast platforms with tremendous amounts of time-consuming content, and for 99% of us, that's exactly what it is, "a waste of time and energy." Because that's how many of us will fail if our goal is to make a living online. Hopefully, that's not the case for you. It certainly is not the case for me.

    Failures into Stepping Stones:

    • Losing Subscribers
    • People get pissed and leave
    • Spammers & Hackers trying to steal my content
    • Site maintenance problems that screw up workflow

    Adapting to these situations and pushing forward is what I've come to enjoy, call me crazy but I'm in this to win. Depression hits, "why the hell am I doing this" is the point when I have to look into my mirror and say, "This is Who I am"

    I am emotionally drawn toward digital marketing and SEO. If losing all of my money on an idea I had for building a fishing empire didn't end my dreams of becoming an online master, nothing will, I am confident of that fact, Jack! The pain of losing money, clients, and overall site authority because of followers backing out, causes me to push myself up off the bed and hit the keyboard with my thumb to wake the computer that much quicker.

    I make $267 helping out in the U.K. That's a start for the week, I then put that money back into my media presence online. One of my biggest setbacks is that I don't have a team, no actual paid coaches, a large number of people who make money online are part of huge networks that blog together, endorse and create content and engagement for their cause.

    Not being entirely without coaching, John Shea does get back to me through email quickly and is one of the most genuine internet marketers that I've come to respect online, he dropped a huge network, that he mentions from time to time, but no longer endorses (for values I am guessing) and that shows me that he's a guy trying to make an honest income online with some skilled marketing and storytelling mixed in.

    Making money online is what I needed to research if I ever wanted to make it. It wasn't. I needed to bypass the 95% of bull shit products and liars online to find what works for me personally and stick to that. Building myself up would prove to be the best decision I've made online, this has allowed me to stay strong through the injustice that most marketers and quick buck strategist have introduced to greenhorns on the net, giving them hopes of making millions of dollars, (if you just give them all your money) in a matter of weeks.

    Here's how I Make Money Online, I problem solve for clients. The past 3 years have been spent sitting in front on this computer wondering, "how in the hell can I make money online and do it in a way that it continues to happen?" That's a pretty selfish attitude, isn't it? Okay, if me wanting a piece of the pie is selfish, so be it. Honestly, I've learned to be less selfish and have learned to become a solutions expert for you. Yes, I make money by helping you succeed in life, in your business and even in fun, remember I shared my fishing adventures with you?

    This is how I live the laptop lifestyle, by just being me and helping you. Persevering through my failures gives me more opportunity to give you with answers to your questions right now when you need them. And if you are looking to make an income doing what you love then be yourself, look to help others with their problems, this will get you more money in the long run. "And hey, if you don't love waking up and can't deal with the depression of marketing, you can always go back to your 9 to 5 job and have your boss tell you what to do all day." Don't think I'm being rude. I just want you to know that the options are there, sure my family still asks when I'm going to get a real job. "This is my job, I do what I enjoy, do you?"

    You won't get fake ass, "I made a million dollars and I want to give you something for free but it's not really free junk." Making money online is a hustle, and when you become a specialist at hustling you become so focused on your hustle that money isn't even a factor. Not hustling people out of their money, but being proactive in providing solutions to their needs at the proper time through marketing and mastering SEO skills.

    Answering, "Who am I?" Is a matter of knowing that I continue to press on until the failures of success force me upward, through the valley of pain, through a ridge of rising skill, finally ending on a mountain top as I reign supreme with internet entrepreneurs who are responsible for the drive you are reading. Because in reality, that's what my time spent online comes from. Knowing that I too will become a 1%er in the worldwide realm of earning money from my laptop.

    I am man honing my skills each and every day, I gladly work on improving my empathy for the networks around me, believing that they are trying to find solutions to your problems. So, if you ever stop by my Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn and you see the random unbranded, personal brand that fills up my feeds, that's the real me.

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      Wouldn’t you want to get out of neck and shoulder pain?

      I will only have this post up for another 36 hours, then it will be gone…

      I was so tired of being tired. Constant fatigue used to rule my life like a black plague of death, consuming my every second. Pain in my shoulders and back, even while being physically fit. The shock from shooting nerves became unbearably insane. And if you have been reading my blog for any length of time, you would know that I need no more “insane” in my life.

      Was there a secret to ending the pain and constant fatigue that I was feeling? What was causing it? It wasn’t the fact that I was unfit, I knew that. I mean I have always worked out regularly… Last month there was a moment of decision in my life that would help drive me to even more positive growth, as you know I have been seeking powerful growth in all aspects of my very being, that is, self-mastery in every area of my life.

      So, I did what any person who was born in the generation that first enjoyed the uniqueness of the internet would do, I fired up my computer and began searching for the reason WHY I was so sore around my neck constantly, despite being strong and fit, why was I so damn ‘out of it?’ Not just tired, but down right lethargy. My confidence was shot along with acute nerve pain shooting through my back at times, did I need surgery, I was hoping not, obviously. Did I mention the gastrointestinal issues that were a constant reminder of having just ate?

      A simple voice search for ’causes of neck pain’, via ‘ask Google’ revealed a few ideas, but nothing popped out at me, nothing had anything to do with my normal routine. Until I saw the words “Text Neck Symptoms.” This was intriguing and sounded a lot like what I had been doing every day for the past 15 years of my life, which was and is, texting.

      Text Neck Symptoms

      There it was staring at me in the face, on the phone that ironically I was using and causing more text neck for myself as I read. Lack of confidence, headaches, pain in neck and shoulders, nerve pain, constant fatigue.

      Exposing the truths about how my constant texting, checking my phone for new notifications, oh, and the constant lack of posture when I sat down to blog could all be caused by the text neck epidemic.

      90% of you suffer from this. It’s always been amazing to me how glued to our devices we all are. Hell, even when I would blog on my laptop I should have been sitting up straight and looking at you guys head on, but often I would slouch, being lazy. Once I learned that text neck could very well be the problem, the only problem hopefully, I began looking more vigorously into what Text Neck Syndrome was.

      Text Neck Syndrome In My Words

      When you are in a constant state of staring down at your phone, you know, reading emails, texting, or, even watching the occasional how to video, your neck is under unneeded constant pressure. Pressure from the weight of your head. Did you know that the human head weighs between 10-12 pounds? You did? Me too. Imagine the stress that weight adds to your body when you are out of alignment and staring downward in that unnatural gaze of wonder.

      It’s like this, when your head is in perfect alignment with your body, the weight on your neck and shoulders supported is the actual weight of your head, so 12 pounds. Now, if you have forward head posture (bad, tsk, tsk) you will add 10 more pounds of weight to your neck for every inch your head moves forward, crazy thing is we do this thousands of times a day and didn’t even realize it until right now.

      I’m willing to bet that the stress on my neck was probably closer to 45 pounds, having had senseless texting wars with my friends, while my head fell forward 3 or 4 inches (That’s not what she said) in a slouch. I didn’t know the secrets back then that I found out in my research a month back.

      Men have the desire and determination to stand erect and tall, to have perfect posture, we are in a constant state of competition with other men for dominance, it’s in our nature to be beast-like. If you have ugly forward head posture your confidence fucking sucks, it’s a shit sandwich of emotional distress, trust, I know. I’ve been in the Military and have had perfect posture, to leaving and having a 40 pound weight on my shoulders. Ladies, you can’t stand seeing a man slouched over and breathing shallow, wheezing, can you? This works especially well for ladies also, truth is the person doing the demo exercises is a lady.

      Another thing about shitty posture I realized after I began to do text neck exercises, was how much older I looked when I would slouch. Take a piss and look in the mirror (Not recommended for ladies of IA) after you stare at your stream, you’ll see what I mean. Just old and unattractive.

      I came across forward head posture fix in my reading, basically it’s a sales landing page that answered a lot of my questions to why I have neck problems, pain and fatigue and how I can fix it for cheap. Yes, this enticed me to purchase the $10.00 instant download, I’m not upset in the least that I did. Because, I thought simple static stretches that I could watch on YouTube would help, and the ones that my chiropractor gave me years ago, but they wouldn’t, and didn’t. And here is why.

      Static stretching only provides temporary relief in pain, muscle tension and an increase in movement but within a few hours, your forward head posture is back to the way it was since the stretch did not target the main cause.

      You just can’t correct the damage that has already been done with static stretching alone. There needs to be a combination of corrective exercise and other techniques to open up and release the neck while activating other muscles so you can return to a balanced state with proper movement in the neck. Or, so I learned.

      Note that postural strengthening is great for those who blog, work in a cubicle on a computer all day. Doing this will help the anxious moments of wanting to quit when your neck screams in agony, because it won’t anymore.

      You need a combination of text neck exercises, breathing techniques, core conditioning, and self-massage. This is just a few that worked real well for me. Honestly though, it’s reprogramming your body to straighten up and fly right.

      Tip When Texting- Hold the damn phone out straight with you arm and look at the screen with your crown held high. Just think, it’s a good shoulder workout for those who have long texting sessions. The strain is far less severe on the shoulders than the 42 pound weight on the neck.

      Text Neck Exercises

      For time purposes, I am sure you are busy and may be scrolling through the post as many readers do, I will limit the amount of exercises that I discuss in this post. These are the ones that I personally felt the greatest relief from.

      Exercise one is the foundation exercise, many other exercises piggyback this exercise. It’s only proper to get this one here. It’s called…

      Lift, Tuck and Tighten- This movement can be performed while sitting, standing or while on your back. Maintain the normal curve of your spine, lift your chest and level out your head. If you are sitting, roll hips forward until you are on you sit bones and curve in your spine is normal. If you are standing, activate your gluteus. Perform 5 repetitions with each being held for 5 seconds and then progress to 10 repetitions with each being held for 10 seconds. Then move to 4 repetitions to 30 seconds and finally one repetitions for a hold of 2 minutes.

      The second one that has brought power and confidence to my life is known as…

      3-Way Mid Back Rocking- Best performed in a seated position but can be done standing. The hands on head and move elbows and shoulder back, plus tighten up the shoulder blades and mid-back. Then arching back five times, rotate side to side for 5 repetitions in each direction and finally rocking side to side for 5 repetitions for a total of 10 repetitions for each movement.

      I’ll leave you with my favorite feel good exercise, this one helps me relieve all sorts of tension in my neck, a lot of migraine sufferers love this one…

      Upper Trapezius Massage- This movement can be performed while sitting, standing or while on your back. Perform 3 self-massage circles in the muscle and focus on the section that is tight and sensitive. Be gentle and be nice to the windpipe. You can progress to 5 repetitions.

      Though I just shared a few of my findings for relieving text neck, it’s not to late for you to put an end to it. Take the opportunity today to do the simple exercises listed above and tell me how great you feel?

      I was pretty nervous when I read what was happening to myself and every cell phone wielding user in the world, I wasn’t sure that it wasn’t too late for me to get myself out of the pain I was in, I thought I had long lasting damage.

      I was wrong, I started doing these exercises and my posture is on point, breathing techniques stimulate my brain, making me feel confident. By powerfully strengthening my core, I am loving myself. My neck is out of pain, I don’t strain to blog and I put an end to staring downwards to the fiery hell pit below.

      I’d suggest, as Injury Specialist Rick Kaselj, MS. says, “do these exercises for 15 minutes a day, working up to more reps.” Yup that’s all it took me. I noticed results on my first day, after that it was a matter of remembering not to go back to the old way of texting and blogging. That’s creating a habit of perfect posture.

      My confidence has since then soared to new heights, working out and adding neck exercises to improve my posture creates a new image of power. A tree that is firmly rooted and stands tall and strong.

      Fixing your Forward Head Posture can literally happen in 15 minutes a day, I actually look forward to doing the routine after my beast sessions… You can head over to Forward Head Posture Fix and see for yourself, learn the routines and maybe we can help spread the word?

      Get Healthy, 

      -Parker (aka Stetson)

      P.S. Let me know how it goes for you.

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      6 Human Needs for Total Breakthrough

      My friend was successfully rolling through life in many great areas. He is spiritually strong, physically well-built, like a brick house. And he is as cool as a cucumber around other people.

      Knowing that I had started on my journey to self-mastery, he saw the changes I was making in my personal daily life. He hesitated then shouted out one day, “I had a shitty life growing up with my abusive father who would put me down on a daily basis, with his words.”

      He went on to say, “As you know, in spite of all that, I grew into a great man and became a hero to many. Noticing your positive growth, I just see that I am not growing consciously anymore and I want to enjoy life again, what’s the secret?”

      “Well Scott,” I said. “I am still learning myself, but I do know that there are 6 human needs that everyone has for any given situation or task in their lives. If these necessities are not being met at their highest levels, then you can kiss your fulfillment in that area of your life goodbye. Not meeting these fundamental human needs will crush your life. That is until you boost up the outcome.”

      I then asked Scott about the area he felt he was most annoyed with, the one he thought was not evolving as it should.

      He said, “Honestly, its my energy in life. I don’t feel like I have enough energy for the days.”

      That was an easy one. I was hoping he didn’t come at me with his kids, or lack of growing with his wife. I didn’t want to get involved with that, whew. I said to him, “Scott, let me give you the six needs that have to be met for your life to thrive in the area of energy. It is a need for certainty followed by uncertainty.”

      “Huh?” said Scott.

      “I know Bud, bear with me. You need a feeling of purpose and connection or love, and the last two are growth and contribution.” I said.

      Scott mulled this over for a bit as I gathered my thoughts of how to continue.

      “Scott, what kind of certainty do you feel when you think about your energy levels? You apparently don’t feel comfortable with your lack of energy so your first task should be to boost up your comfort in this area! Why not try to focus on how not gaining energy will affect you down the line? How lousy will you feel six months or a year from now if you continue to not gain comfort in this area?”

      He said, “I would feel ten times worse. I’d be depressed and not able to hang out with my friends.”

      I let him continue to speak openly.

      “Secondly, that discomfort shows a need for variety. Shake things up a bit, try different foods to boost energy, if you’ve been running to gain energy, shake it up, go for a swim! Make a change in your routine.

      It’s these changes in scenery that will pump up your satisfaction in meeting this need. We all need variety in our lives. What happens when we don’t add variety?

      “Boredom!” exclaimed Scott.

      How will ending your lack of energy bring you more satisfaction in life?
      Will it drive you toward a better purpose?

      I know that just gaining more energy will shatter the ‘I don’t have the energy to…’, thus throwing huge purpose filled moments into your life.”

      My observation was that Scott was hooked on what I was saying which helped me know I was getting through to him. I said, “On a scale from 1-10, 10 being the highest level of connection, where do you see your sense of love or self-satisfaction you gain from low energy levels?”

      “A four (4),” he said. “I don’t feel much connection with others around me. When I lay around all day,” Scott, mentioned reluctantly.

      “I think that number for connection and friendships will increase in the coming months if you were to skyrocket your energy to world class levels!”

      “I’d feel awesome and the number may be a 9 or 10.” he belted.

      I was having fun with my buddy, Scott, helping him see where his growth will come from and how I can help him get into a ‘changeling’ state of mind.

      If you were keeping track, that will leave us with two more needs that I did not explain yet, right? Well, I am going to give you the chance to do a ‘Needs’ assessment in your own life today, right now.

      Grab that sheet of paper on the table next to you and the pen.

      Draw 6 small squares on a sheet of paper and write your needs next to each individual box for your six human needs.

      Got it? Your focus could be physical appearance, emotional, spiritual, anything you want to get a better gauge on.

      Write those down now and rate how well each need is being met in that specific area of your life. I want you to write a number in each box that you truthfully feel is your level of fulfillment in each area. Using a scale from 1-10, where 1 is no satisfaction what so ever, and 10 being complete enjoyment.

      Once you define the areas that need fixing and improving then you can move forward and find out how to boost them up. I found out so much about myself. When I did this for the first time I hadn’t realized how little my needs were being met.

      I also have not forgotten about the other two areas that Scott and I talked about. I don’t want to overload you and I am hoping you will come back for my next article for the end result.


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      When you make decisions to make goals, to carry them out no matter what, your life will become powerful beyond your current views for yourself. Low self esteem is brought on by years of dangerous self labeling by your thoughts, the people around you, the environment you live in, all these areas can shape your self esteem be it positive or negative, only you have the power to decide the outcome, breaking away from lousy self thought and deciding to live your life full of high esteem. The word decision means to literally, cut off, meaning to shut down all other factors that keep you from achieving what you are after. 

      Decisions Determine Destiny

      Tony Robbins says, “there are three decisions that will determine your destiny.” If you focus on these decisions everyday with conscious effort you can literally change the direction of your life, be forewarned because these decisions have the power to excel your life into uncharted waters. The first decision is to decide What To Focus On in your everyday life. What are you going to think about each day of your life, the things you focus on will shift your direction. The second is to decide What Do Things Mean To You? Is the situation you are in, a good right for your life’s direction, or is this not congruent with your life goals and should you get out of that environment right now? And lastly, What Should You Do Now? This decision will shape your destiny. Decide to make the conscious effort to have high esteem and focus on these three questions, make them congruent with your agreement to keep positive esteem, and your actions will have no other choice but to comply. 

      This must be a conscious drive in your life. If you choose to change your self esteem, don’t allow the unconscious mind to control the judgments you make, that will only lead to random action steps in life. People who struggle with low self worth have set their beliefs in motion by their actions. Actions consistent with bad decisions will lead to harmful results. It is when these actions are changed for the better, that positive results will occur. 

      When making big decisions it is especially important to think before jumping, this may sound obvious but you’d be surprised how many people will subconsciously jump into a big decision just to get it over with. Ever notice the instant relief that is felt when a decision has been made, either way you go, there is relief, many will choose by the flip of a coin in order to get relief, this leads to brash decision making and bad outcomes. Extreme self power comes from cutting off all avenues of relapse that will cause your decisions to fail. When you decide to raise your self esteem, then do it, right then. Don’t let anything else interfere with that, focusing like a laser beam intensity on winning yourself to that goal. Create positive self talk for yourself right at that moment, that will get you started, consciously. 

      The more decisions we make in life, the easier they are controlled. Decision making is like that of a muscle in the body, the more we train and build up that muscle the stronger it becomes. “If you don’t use it, you lose it,” holds very true to the conscious action in growing yourself fully. If you don’t use any self improvement techniques, grow your decision making skills or, build yourself up consciously, then your body will resort back to it’s old debilitating self.  

      The beliefs you choose to have can either destroy your life or, they can create you into a hero that everyone runs to for strength. If you are unhappy with your life, change the belief of your life. Step back and remember the great areas of your life, began to build positive beliefs for yourself, this will empower you. 

      People have gotten so far away from what they know to be true about themselves, because they let others give their input. By not allowing others to fuel your actions, you can choose to love yourself and be happy. Make more decisions in life, everyday take a conscious approach to add three or five new decisions to your life and see where it leads you. Repetition is how the great ones become great, ask Kobe. Overtime you need to learn what decisions made you happy, and which ones brought you less success leading you to lower esteem. Learning this will spark ignite the new habits in your life. Going back to laser focus, focus on building these new habits one at a time until you are fluent with them, then move on to new habits. 

      Feeling great about yourself takes habit building, this is one of the easiest ways to build confidence. Continue to build a high belief about yourself until, that belief becomes a part of you, apart of your values, your thoughts, and your soul.Self esteem must become a conscious habit in your life, in order to understand how you feel about yourself, while deciding to take congruent actions.