6 Human Needs for Total Breakthrough

My friend was successfully rolling through life in many great areas. He is spiritually strong, physically well-built, like a brick house. And he is as cool as a cucumber around other people.

Knowing that I had started on my journey to self-mastery, he saw the changes I was making in my personal daily life. He hesitated then shouted out one day, “I had a shitty life growing up with my abusive father who would put me down on a daily basis, with his words.”

He went on to say, “As you know, in spite of all that, I grew into a great man and became a hero to many. Noticing your positive growth, I just see that I am not growing consciously anymore and I want to enjoy life again, what’s the secret?”

“Well Scott,” I said. “I am still learning myself, but I do know that there are 6 human needs that everyone has for any given situation or task in their lives. If these necessities are not being met at their highest levels, then you can kiss your fulfillment in that area of your life goodbye. Not meeting these fundamental human needs will crush your life. That is until you boost up the outcome.”

I then asked Scott about the area he felt he was most annoyed with, the one he thought was not evolving as it should.

He said, “Honestly, its my energy in life. I don’t feel like I have enough energy for the days.”

That was an easy one. I was hoping he didn’t come at me with his kids, or lack of growing with his wife. I didn’t want to get involved with that, whew. I said to him, “Scott, let me give you the six needs that have to be met for your life to thrive in the area of energy. It is a need for certainty followed by uncertainty.”

“Huh?” said Scott.

“I know Bud, bear with me. You need a feeling of purpose and connection or love, and the last two are growth and contribution.” I said.

Scott mulled this over for a bit as I gathered my thoughts of how to continue.

“Scott, what kind of certainty do you feel when you think about your energy levels? You apparently don’t feel comfortable with your lack of energy so your first task should be to boost up your comfort in this area! Why not try to focus on how not gaining energy will affect you down the line? How lousy will you feel six months or a year from now if you continue to not gain comfort in this area?”

He said, “I would feel ten times worse. I’d be depressed and not able to hang out with my friends.”

I let him continue to speak openly.

“Secondly, that discomfort shows a need for variety. Shake things up a bit, try different foods to boost energy, if you’ve been running to gain energy, shake it up, go for a swim! Make a change in your routine.

It’s these changes in scenery that will pump up your satisfaction in meeting this need. We all need variety in our lives. What happens when we don’t add variety?

“Boredom!” exclaimed Scott.

How will ending your lack of energy bring you more satisfaction in life?
Will it drive you toward a better purpose?

I know that just gaining more energy will shatter the ‘I don’t have the energy to…’, thus throwing huge purpose filled moments into your life.”

My observation was that Scott was hooked on what I was saying which helped me know I was getting through to him. I said, “On a scale from 1-10, 10 being the highest level of connection, where do you see your sense of love or self-satisfaction you gain from low energy levels?”

“A four (4),” he said. “I don’t feel much connection with others around me. When I lay around all day,” Scott, mentioned reluctantly.

“I think that number for connection and friendships will increase in the coming months if you were to skyrocket your energy to world class levels!”

“I’d feel awesome and the number may be a 9 or 10.” he belted.

I was having fun with my buddy, Scott, helping him see where his growth will come from and how I can help him get into a ‘changeling’ state of mind.

If you were keeping track, that will leave us with two more needs that I did not explain yet, right? Well, I am going to give you the chance to do a ‘Needs’ assessment in your own life today, right now.

Grab that sheet of paper on the table next to you and the pen.

Draw 6 small squares on a sheet of paper and write your needs next to each individual box for your six human needs.

Got it? Your focus could be physical appearance, emotional, spiritual, anything you want to get a better gauge on.

Write those down now and rate how well each need is being met in that specific area of your life. I want you to write a number in each box that you truthfully feel is your level of fulfillment in each area. Using a scale from 1-10, where 1 is no satisfaction what so ever, and 10 being complete enjoyment.

Once you define the areas that need fixing and improving then you can move forward and find out how to boost them up. I found out so much about myself. When I did this for the first time I hadn’t realized how little my needs were being met.

I also have not forgotten about the other two areas that Scott and I talked about. I don’t want to overload you and I am hoping you will come back for my next article for the end result.


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Conscious Decision in Building Self Esteem


Do you recall the earliest moment in your life when you accomplished your first goal? I know that you felt powerful, you felt alive, didn’t you? Now, imagine for yourself, feeling that excitement every single day. Building self esteem is preceded by taking new actions in life, and providing yourself with better self talk will cause you to feel that on a continuous basis. Before taking action thought, you must first make a decision, which is where you are now. You made a decision to read this article, which lead you to take the action of, reading it.

When you make decisions to make goals, to carry them out no matter what, your life will become powerful beyond your current views for yourself. Low self esteem is brought on by years of dangerous self labeling by your thoughts, the people around you, the environment you live in, all these areas can shape your self esteem be it positive or negative, only you have the power to decide the outcome, breaking away from lousy self thought and deciding to live your life full of high esteem. The word decision means to literally, cut off, meaning to shut down all other factors that keep you from achieving what you are after. 

Decisions Determine Destiny

Tony Robbins says, “there are three decisions that will determine your destiny.” If you focus on these decisions everyday with conscious effort you can literally change the direction of your life, be forewarned because these decisions have the power to excel your life into uncharted waters. The first decision is to decide What To Focus On in your everyday life. What are you going to think about each day of your life, the things you focus on will shift your direction. The second is to decide What Do Things Mean To You? Is the situation you are in, a good right for your life’s direction, or is this not congruent with your life goals and should you get out of that environment right now? And lastly, What Should You Do Now? This decision will shape your destiny. Decide to make the conscious effort to have high esteem and focus on these three questions, make them congruent with your agreement to keep positive esteem, and your actions will have no other choice but to comply. 

This must be a conscious drive in your life. If you choose to change your self esteem, don’t allow the unconscious mind to control the judgments you make, that will only lead to random action steps in life. People who struggle with low self worth have set their beliefs in motion by their actions. Actions consistent with bad decisions will lead to harmful results. It is when these actions are changed for the better, that positive results will occur. 

When making big decisions it is especially important to think before jumping, this may sound obvious but you’d be surprised how many people will subconsciously jump into a big decision just to get it over with. Ever notice the instant relief that is felt when a decision has been made, either way you go, there is relief, many will choose by the flip of a coin in order to get relief, this leads to brash decision making and bad outcomes. Extreme self power comes from cutting off all avenues of relapse that will cause your decisions to fail. When you decide to raise your self esteem, then do it, right then. Don’t let anything else interfere with that, focusing like a laser beam intensity on winning yourself to that goal. Create positive self talk for yourself right at that moment, that will get you started, consciously. 

The more decisions we make in life, the easier they are controlled. Decision making is like that of a muscle in the body, the more we train and build up that muscle the stronger it becomes. “If you don’t use it, you lose it,” holds very true to the conscious action in growing yourself fully. If you don’t use any self improvement techniques, grow your decision making skills or, build yourself up consciously, then your body will resort back to it’s old debilitating self.  

The beliefs you choose to have can either destroy your life or, they can create you into a hero that everyone runs to for strength. If you are unhappy with your life, change the belief of your life. Step back and remember the great areas of your life, began to build positive beliefs for yourself, this will empower you. 

People have gotten so far away from what they know to be true about themselves, because they let others give their input. By not allowing others to fuel your actions, you can choose to love yourself and be happy. Make more decisions in life, everyday take a conscious approach to add three or five new decisions to your life and see where it leads you. Repetition is how the great ones become great, ask Kobe. Overtime you need to learn what decisions made you happy, and which ones brought you less success leading you to lower esteem. Learning this will spark ignite the new habits in your life. Going back to laser focus, focus on building these new habits one at a time until you are fluent with them, then move on to new habits. 

Feeling great about yourself takes habit building, this is one of the easiest ways to build confidence. Continue to build a high belief about yourself until, that belief becomes a part of you, apart of your values, your thoughts, and your soul.Self esteem must become a conscious habit in your life, in order to understand how you feel about yourself, while deciding to take congruent actions. 

The Purpose Driven Life and How To Find It

The Purpose Driven Life and How To Find It

The problem with people trying to find their purpose in life, is that a majority of them, lack the mental intelligence of coming to a conscious understanding of defining what that purpose is. If you have ever nonchalantly sat down and said, “Hey, I’m a shithead and I need to find better things to do with my time, think I’ll sit down and find my purpose.” You’d be going about it the wrong way, essentially, playing into the reason you haven’t found it the previous 20 times.

In order to find your purpose, your mind must first be in a heightened state of consciousness, it’s not enough to simply want to find your purpose. If you haven’t opened a book in 10 years, or been attending your weekly seminars that teach you how to empower your mind in the next 21 days, how do you expect to just sit down and find your entire life’s purpose in one sitting?

Your lack of intelligence on any subject will always be directly linked to the efforts that you put into learning about how to master it, on your own. Think for a moment, about your level of conscious awareness to the world around you right now. Are you at a heightened state of consciousness, do you feel as if your mind is looking at you from above, giving you all the answers at a moments thought, the answers that you seek? If so, than maybe you are ready to find purpose. Now, if you haven’t been trying to intelligently raise your state of well-being, because you have been to engrossed with how emotionally depleted you feel, then you should probably not try to find purpose, today. At least until you work on heightening your self-awareness.

Before I turned 30 years old, I constantly lived in a state of lowered mindfulness, living each day as if I were in a brain fogged coma, never trying to spark my need for powerfully changing my thoughts. Growing older I began to learn that if I wanted to find purpose, I would have to change the thoughts I had about myself, which would then cause me to seek more knowledge, leading me to inch up the rungs of the mysterious conscious ladder of awareness.

The brain you are born with is unique to your body, your skills and the limitations of it’s atrophy. Think of your brain as a muscle that gets stronger as you exercise it. By exercising through mind games, reading books, practicing and learning new things you can become smarter, despite what some medical experts lead you to believe. That, you are born either dumb or smart and you can not change that.

Raising your level of conscious awareness must be done in order to find a higher purpose. Start building skills that you have allowed to remain dormant inside of you.

People seeking to find their ambitions in life, while in a constant state of depression and lower leveled thinking, tread dangerous waters in their mindless search. Early, in the age of consciousness we are barraged with environmental decisions. These decisions are subconsciously pounding our minds by the people in our inner circles, constantly changing are, our views and judgments, by continuing in this low state of mind, we can not grow to find our highest self.

From the bullies who mocked you in high school, to your parents telling you how much they dislike the president in the White House, this daily stimuli has a lasting effect on the choices you make in life, forging and creating the possible outcome of your life’s purpose. Finding false purpose by these negative situations, can be the result of having chose to take the easy way out by using someone else’s purpose in life as your own. Beware, when you come across these people who focus on the life mantra of, anything that sounds good, goes, this shallow pool of self-realization is not healthy for you to get involved in when you sekk self-mastery. 

The purpose driven life is made for individuals that stick it out in the intense adversity that life gives them. There is an exercise that is said to help you find your purpose, that may be so, if you don’t give up 5 minutes before you are shown your profound revelation. When you start this exercise, don’t go into it lightly, you will get the most out of it when you complete it in its entirety.  Sit down in a room by yourself, in isolation and allow your mind to reveal it’s secrets. Many of you, (myself, in the past) that have gone through the steps to finally raise your level of self-awareness will fall victim to contentment, you become stagnant, failing to grow even taller.

If you are serious about finding your life’s purpose and completing the exercise, you can shoot me an email or contact me, I’ll be sure to send it to you.

You are taught to believe that you have a predestined life purpose, from birth and you must walk the streets of life everyday to find what it is, otherwise you will die without having led the life that you were destined to live. I have news for you, I don’t believe we have a predestined purpose for our lives. This simply is not true, our environment, our work ethics, mixed with countless other life factors create our aspirations. Something else to think about, these aspirations will evolve over time, challenging you to constantly search for an even higher purpose for your life. Those who are never satisfied with where they are in life, go on to create valuable products, services, and never stop when they find the life that calls to them, they press, continuing to look upwards.

“Continue seeking a higher level of self-awareness each day, whilst, keeping a disciplined mindset to continue writing, in order to help you who seek to find purpose.”
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I am a man who doesn’t give up. I write unscripted material for guiding you and myself through a journey to reach the World Class.
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    This Makes You Happy


    True conscious growth comes at the moment when you finally realize that you have been in a series of months lead with constant positive thoughts, months of feeling deeply great about yourself.

    Think about it this way, there are 5 types of feel good chemicals inside of your brain, 6 if you count nor-epinephrine, starving for some attention. In order to benefit fully from their positive impact you must first activate their core, feed them oxygen and they will supercharge your body to achieve greatness at the highest level of consciousness. Once you have shocked them back to life, keeping them maintained becomes a life long commitment, this is easier said than done for most. You can get it done.


    Laying Dormant


    Tom was a basket case in the winter, he would always give in to the changing of the weather, not wanting to work out, in fact he just stopped providing his brain the proper chemical boost that was needed to push through these long cold nights. Oxycontin is activated in the brain by taking action steps in life, this gives a feeling of falling in love or when one comes home after a long hard day. As Tom held up in his room all day staring blankly at his television set watching “wings” for the 30th time, his feelings of joy and content were replaced with fear and isolation. If only he could find the energy to venture into the world again to replenish the imbalance inside him.


    In order to ignite the release of these chemicals that lay dormant within you, I would suggest you begin monitoring your thoughts throughout your day, keep track of them in a journal this way you can always have foresight into what thoughts you allow to take root within yourself. Are your thoughts congruent with the actions you take, of course they are. In any case, were not going to be able to stop our negative thoughts 100% but I can tell you that with building a habit of positive thinking, the negatives tend to be far less accessible to your conscious mind.

    The “Feel Good” Chemicals


    • Endorphin– Any of a group of peptide hormones that bind to opioid receptors and act as neurotransmitters. Endorphin reduce the sensation of pain and affect emotions. 
    • Dopamine– A catecholamine neurotransmitter in the central nervous system, retina, and sympathetic ganglia, acting within the brain to help regulate movement and emotion: its depletion may cause Parkinson’s disease. 
    • Oxycontin– A polypeptide hormone, produced by the posterior lobe of the pituitary gland, that stimulates contraction of the smooth muscle of the uterus.
    • Nor-Epinephrine– Also called nor-adrenaline. Physiology. a neurotransmitter, released by adrenergic nerve terminals in the autonomic and possibly the central nervous system, that has such effects as constricting blood vessels, raising blood pressure, and dilating bronchi. 
    • Prolactin– An anterior pituitary polypeptide hormone that stimulates lactation by the mammary glands at parturition in mammals, the activity of the crop in birds, and in some mammalian species the production of progesterone by the corpus luteum.



    Focused positive thinking provides a jolt of energy for the pleasure center in your mind, much like jump starting your car back to life. Start to proclaim a series of confident aspirations for 21 days in a row and you will see a paradigm shift in your daily emotions. Seemingly forcing these affirmations are foreign and often extremely difficult for the pessimist at first, but once a habit of conscious thought management starts taking place, the pessimist will turn into quite the optimist.

    Set backs are part of life, understanding this while maintaining specific aspirations will enable you to remain calm, cool and collected in time of uncertainty. When you unknowingly force defeating labels on yourself this takes away from the good that positive emotion creates.

    Maintain the Feeling


    Now that you are beginning to feel good each and everyday, its like anything else, you need to do maintain that feeling. Doing daily routine maintenance for your brain stimuli is that life long task I told you about before, it comes from choosing to activate your chemical center, routinely. The reason you have to continue to keep up with your emotional high from these happy chemical releases is that they act similar to a drug inside of you. Drugs have this come down period, the time when the chemical wears off leading to chemical withdrawal. Another way of understanding this is to think for me if you will, of an alcoholic who self medicates himself with this drug causing him to feel happy, he can control his dose and keep himself feeling that high, its not until the drug wears off that his chemicals inside his brain become dangerously low.

    Maintaining your emotional high is your best defense in continuing to feel good, it is far more difficult and painful to raise your brain chemicals from rock bottom to its peak, then it is to keep them at their synergistic level. Personally, I choose to swim hard and fast, the endorphin release inside my blood stream keeps me chasing that high, continually. Endorphin build up when your body has injuries and pain. As you run, swim or do exercise of any kind these endorphin are released to mask the pain, which is what enables the injured mother to run back to her faint child when thrown out of the car, endorphin keep you feeling good in the presence of pain.

    Come Full Circle


    Take steps to share your profound feeling of pleasure, further reinforcing your chemical high. Look back over the past months, visualize and recall the moments when positive change took place. Sit your friends and family down, share with them the truths that were revealed to you in your quest to feeling great. Anyone worth befriending will be more than encouraged by your rapid transformation that they themselves will release dopamine inside their brain. As you see others feeling great you will have fueled your bodies desire for more chemical relief, keeping you from falling victim to withdrawal symptoms of setbacks.